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Days of Thankfulness: My Husband the Dad

I’m sure I’ve posted more than enough about my husband to thoroughly convince anyone that he is the absolute best. However, it feels only right that I start this year’s Days of Thankfulness with how unbelievably thankful I am to have him as the father of my children. He is such a wonderful dad, surprising absolutely no one, and it really is beyond words to describe how blessed I am that my boys have him. But this is a blog, so I’ll try my best to put words to it. Today I’m thankful for my husband as a dad.

Firstly, I am so thankful for how the Lord has preserved our marriage. Many marriages take a hit when a new baby comes home. It’s stressful to keep a tiny human alive when you don’t really know what you’re doing, and there are hormones flying and sleep is non-existent and life is just utter chaos. I’m not going to tell you that we didn’t struggle through the first few months of parenthood, but I will tell you that we made it through, not by our own power, by any means, but solely by the power of Christ in us. It took a lot of prayer and a lot of trusting in God, but he enabled us to get through it and I am so thankful for His provision and for my husband as the spiritual leader of our family. I’m thankful to be married to a Godly man who helps me be a stronger Christian every day.

My husband has been the most amazing supporter I’ve had as a mother. He’s been here to uphold me through every trial motherhood has thrown at me. During the boys first months I tried to breastfeed, which was thwarted by Myles’ NICU stay and the supplementing required for our boys to gain weight. Once it was clear that they wouldn’t latch and the best way for the to get breast milk was to pump, that’s what we did and Logan supported me all the way. It was the worst experience of my time as a mother so far, but he stood by me as I struggled to find time to pump, to deal with clogged ducts and mastitis, and to produce enough for our boys. He comforted me as I cried every time I hooked up to the pump, when I woke up covered in breast milk because the nursing pad had slipped, when I was just too exhausted to think and too full not to pump. He stood by me even though he would rather I quit, he never said it until I was ready to quit. Until the moment I realized it wasn’t worth it to keep pumping, he never said a word against it. He would have had my back for as long as I would have gone. I am so thankful to have a husband who will stand by me through whatever I face.

I’m so thankful for how involved Logan is with our boys. He wants so much to be a part of every aspect of their lives and strives to spend as much time as possible with them at every opportunity. He doesn’t shy away from diaper changes, even the poopy ones, because that’s time with his boys. He loves playing with them, making them laugh and smile, and cuddling with them when they fall asleep. He loves to read to them and is so excited to go through the children’s catechism with our boys. I am so thankful for how much he loves our boys and how he interacts with them. He is an amazing dad and our twins love him so much. They get such big smiles when he comes home from work, or when they see him when they first wake up. He can make them laugh when no one else can.

My husband is the actual best, and I am so grateful to have him as my partner in parenting. With the time change the boys have been getting up earlier. As we try to adjust their schedule back to¬† normal Logan has been getting the boys up, changing them and feeding them their morning bottle, and playing with them until he has to go to work, while letting me sleep in an extra 40 minutes. It has made all the difference in the world. He is always saying about how he wishes he could do more and he doesn’t feel like he’s doing enough for me to help with the boys, but he constantly goes above and beyond to be a good father and husband. He makes me coffee when I’m struggling to be awake, he takes care of the boys so I get a break when he gets home, he will clean anything I ask him to, deal with any gross thing, take any night shift, so that I can get some extra rest. It’s hard since there are two of them and it’s often a two person job to take care of them, but he does his absolute best and I am so very thankful for everything that he does for us.

Today, and every day, I am thankful for my wonderful husband and father of my children. What are you thankful for?

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