Days of Thankfulness: Support
Good morning friends! It’s November once more and that means it’s time to look back on all the things we’re thankful for. As you can imagine, I have quite a bit to be thankful for this year; more than I was expecting, even. We’re getting a little bit of a late start with the days, due in part to the whole twin, finding a doctor, thing, but we are pretty set and I can breathe a little bit now and look at all the things I have to be thankful for right now. Since we’ve been doing this for a while and I have so much stuff going on around me, we may not do one every blogging day, but I would like to keep up the tradition as much as possible, so here we go.
Today I am thankful for all the support that has gathered around me since we found out about the twins. Seriously, it’s amazing how God provides people with encouraging words when you most need to hear them. Logan and I have been blessed with amazing families who are so ready and willing to help take care of us and our children, even before we knew there were two of them. I am so grateful for that support system and for the friends who have also rallied around us.
This goes beyond that initial support, though. When we thought we were having one baby, sure, everyone wanted to help out and encourage us with how great it would be to have a baby to love and how it’s tough, sure, but things get better. It was great to have our family and friends around us, so excited for us, and ready to lend a hand once the baby came. Then we found out we were having twins and suddenly everything was spinning and tumbling and uncertain. That’s when the comments shifted from “Oh having a baby is great, even if it’s a lot of work” to “You can do this.”
“You can do this!”
Read that a couple times and tell me how it makes you feel. Imagine drowning in a mix of excitement and uncertainty and self-doubt and hearing those words out of nowhere, from friends you haven’t seen in years, from people you never expected. “You can do this, I know you can.” I cannot describe how uplifting it is to hear that when your head is filled with ‘what are we going to do?’s and ‘how are we going to do it?’s. It might seem like such a simple thing, such a little thing, to type out those words and send them, but they’ve meant the world to me in the past two weeks.
I talked to a middle school friend after our announcement. I haven’t spoken to her in years, since the last time I ran into her at the Walmart back home, probably. Despite that, she messaged me to offer me hand-me-downs from her boys and so much encouragement. She reminded me of God’s blessings and His perfect plan; that He would not have given us these two little boys if we couldn’t handle them, and that she couldn’t think of anyone who would do better with twins than me. We’ve been getting a lot of “Oh you’ll be busy!” comments in with the congratulations. People’s natural reaction, it seems, is to point out how much work it will be to have two babies instead of one. In the midst of all the good-natured “you’ll have your hands full!”s, though, God gave me this friend, and several others, telling me “you got this!” Reminding me that we are very much not alone.
We are so thankful for the people who have come around us to support us as we venture into the world of twin parenting. Our families, as always, are there for us, ready to help where they can. Our friends are so excited for us and, I’m sure, will be there whenever we need to call on them. But today, I’m especially thankful for those whom God has used to encourage me these past two weeks. To those who told me that I can do this, who reminded me that I’m not alone on this journey, who assured me that we can handle having twins, I am so very thankful for all of you.